Not a few restless girls waiting for the presence of their mate, especially when age is increasing. While the focus has shifted to learning to work, while studying changes to the natural environment to work, the anxious feelings become too rampant. Typically, the most oppressed by anxiety such as these are among women who did not have an advantage in terms of appearance. Language simply, not beautiful.
Whether or not mate for them? That's the question that often haunt their lives. Especially when you see them as old friends, one by one stepped into the realm of the household. How lucky they are, while the day itself felt increasingly lonely. TV, movies and novels could not penetrate the feelings of their hearts. When they cried watching a movie and a love story, they realize that they are only qualified to be a devotee, not the 'owners' love. More great envy pressing their soul and sensitivity.
Finally, it is questionable. How long should you wait? What needs to be done to get the marriage? Because self-owned wanted, loved. Want also called his wife to the husband and mother to the son of a cute daughter. The question is, how?
How do I as a woman want to work for marriage? I do not have the advantage in terms of appearance. I was not pretty.
This is a big or small? For those who looked to be small, but for the bear, that's their biggest problem.
CONFIDENCE AND PERCEPTION
In fact, the basic solution is quite simple. As a Muslim who believes in God, we also believe that with all the conditions and the work of God. Mate, food, and we have long term established by God before we set foot on earth again. I think, all people know about this statement.
However, to convince to believe, was not easy. Weak faith in God leads to weak confidence in the calculated move of God. We can be confident that this night there is provision for us, but it is hard to believe that one day there came to our courtship.
It's a matter of belief.
Loop "NOT ME BEAUTIFUL"
First of all, when there came the whispers of the heart that trigger doubts, you should immediately 'check' the whispers in advance and do not continue to believe.
For example, talks about the possibility there will be no catch for you. Perhaps you will marry the old, the old maid. You are not beautiful. No one wants to be your wife. And many more other whispers.
Analysis of past and do not continue to believe.
Example: I am not beautiful, who are to be my ni.
These doubts and whispers of the most stirring of girls and women out there. If not filtered, all the whispers will affect not good to yourself. So the analysis; whether you are beautiful?
Is it true that you sehodoh and bad? Really you do not conduct and no man who wants to?
The answer: NO.
If you do not believe, look around you. Millions of people are not beautiful being called the wife and mother of their children. If not beautiful the way of the mate, it is impossible that they can feel the blessings home.
Sometimes, you can see with your own eyes, a man who hensem and handsome but married to a woman who is not beautiful, and they are happy. Not pretty does not mean ugly like a ghost. What I mean here is not in the category of pretty good-looking. Not in the category of simple men masher attention.
Proved, there was the sad conjugate, even sometimes their lives much happier than the beautiful.
MONITOR whispers of Satan
So the first step that I suggest above is not easy to believe the whispers and negative spark your own heart. You should be aware, that what is being discussed is very closely related to the question of FAITH in God. Faith means trust with confidence. Mate is also included in this question. Superintendent of trust and confidence to the entire universe, is God.
To be confident like that, we have to clean the liver. Because faith is located in the liver. If our faith weak radiation, the dependence of God less, they are easily the devil into our hearts. Satan will try to rule and control our hearts the hope that we will despair of the Mercy of God. This is the work of Satan until the day of Judgement, as his promise to God.
If you manage to clean out the liver, by increasing the remembrance, prayer and reading the Quran, the whispers will not be able to take place in your heart. Your confidence in God will become stronger. When you expect incidence of a good man for you, hope that you back up to God. Not to the people.
So with that, God willing you will be calm.
BUSINESS
Well, after you perform the step above well and tries hard to please, from the whispers of the negative, there was the question of how you work. True, as humans we can not only trust, but merely need to be accompanied also by the effort. For example, want to eat rice. We will not be satisfied if only sitting cross-legged on the bed without making any. So in addition to our confidence that there is provision for us, the confidence that our actions must be accompanied with working out and looking for food.
Similarly, the mating.
Do not expect future mate will come rolling door, when you shut up alone in the house. For women, there are ways for you to strive for a mate. Moreover, if you do not have the edge on your look and more difficult to attract men.
Beautiful women, may differ from the others. Many are lining up to try his luck.
So in terms of this work, you can actually use whatever methods and strategies that are deemed necessary, on condition that it does not conflict with Islamic law. Among them:
1 - the well bucket SEARCH
Shame on you. This is what is normally accepted as a solution like this try to put forward. Minds of our society can not accept the intelligence of a woman on the men. Men who have gone to women but women just have to wait for the man.
In fact, even the women who came inquire of the boys, this is not an embarrassment in the presence of Islam. It should only be seen against the custom only. But remember, in Islam we are taught to burden themselves with unnecessary red tape. So take the custom only to the degree necessary.
The Prophet saw Permudahkanlah (business) and do not bedevil.
So if the women who started first, it can be calculated are included in the category of work and it enabled the Islamic side.
2 - BUILDING PERSONAL Charisma
I am more inclined to move this effort to any concerns of women think about mating. I once wrote a beautiful article on the value of a man who more or less the same purpose, ie to motivate women out there who feel that they are 'not beautiful'.
Do not get too dejected to think about mating. Do not worry too slow to meet the mate. Do not be too haunted by feelings of inferiority, until you lose yourself! This is what I affirm.
You must believe that the entire body, there are a thousand and one advantages that God has given you. But, you may not know the advantages that you do not know yourself. I repeat, you do not know yourself.
I once wrote that for men, beautiful appearance is not the number one after marriage. This fact in the home environment. Then why, the issue was not beautiful or not you enlarge, so that 'beauty' in your other failed to be polished.
A fact you should know about men, men like women who are charismatic.
Men are attracted to women who are courageous, self-reliant, smart, intelligent, mature, can become good friends to laugh and cry, reason, foresight, caring, good support and many more.
And another fact you should immediately realize is; all the above properties does not exist ONLY on the beautiful women only! Are you aware?
You may not realize that if you are a very very like chestnuts, love to watch Korean and crazy love story to read hundreds of novels of love. Why? Because of the 'world' is, you will see a perfect heroine, but very perfect.
Heroin is a pretty charming. Then he was also a talented, intelligent, smart, mature, charismatic, high-caliber and a myriad of other advantages. Meanwhile, friends of the heroin was mediocre. Not pretty and not much advantage there.
These imaginary characters who are blind you, and also has been successful blind people 'catch' you out there. When want to marry, characteristics sought in a woman must be beautiful and attractive. If not, he would feel 'lost' the character in the drama and film.
You may also be that if too believe in the stories you read or watch.
You should immediately realize that the character in the movie or drama is yourself. You are able to compete as characters. You are eligible for the accompanied good man, like the characters. Although you are not as beautiful as heroine in the film.
Then from there, you will quickly develop charisma in you. If you are a student, you will be a tip top student, not the usual. Academic achievement in a number. Your appearance neat and maintained. Your behavior is very orderly and pleasing anyone. Involvement in associations, outstanding programs and activities. If you are the director of programs, then you will be seen as a very professional director. If you are a coordinator of the program, you are seen as a careful and prudent strategy. If your working environment, you known as a full employee commitment, wise mengutarakn brilliant new ideas, consistency in the performance of work and most importantly, your manners pleasing all my colleagues.
Consciously or not, you're the attention of many men who are seeking their life partner. And these men, it was certainly not a lady-killer type or types of crocodiles, because men of that class is only concerned with aspects of the appearance of beauty in their lives. Good man will approach you, and when you look 'tough' and 'excellent', so the higher your stock in front of them.
3 - BE SELFISH
Did you know that being yourself is a form of business? A lot of people wrong. Restless think matchmaking is not abiding arrived, he turned into someone else. Usually, they will strive to improve aspects of personal beauty, in the hope that men would approach them.
From a virgin who could not bermake-up, he is a virgin her make-up three inches thick. Dinipiskan eyebrows. Increasingly tightened loose shirts. More abbreviated lid loose. Upload pictures in various poses and was aired on blogs and facebook. Everything is made solely to qualify him to be the hottest girl in the market.
This is ridiculous.
Be yourself. You must understand that to yourself that there are things that can be changed and there are things that can not be changed. This must be understood before you put the principles of: Men need to accept me for granted.
Examples that can not be changed are the things that are physical in nature. Height, color, shape of the nose and so on. All this you must not change or improve. Accept it as yourself and good men will accept you as is.
But things can change you need to change. For example, the way you walk, how to laugh, habits, negative attitudes and even the weight (if you have a problem of obesity). All of this is if you refuse to change, then you simply do not expect a man in an engagement and then accept you as is. It was difficult.
You kind of laugh like crazy. This is bad in the eyes of men. You need to change. You are a habit-gedik or melatah tergedik nonsense. This needs to be changed. Weight as well. You do not keep eating and do not like exercise. When you are gaining weight and more rounded, you remember to never try to lose weight on the ground 'is myself and men need to accept me as is'. That's the wrong concept.
So, be yourself in illegal things changed. Instead of mandatory change, you have to change. That is called hypocrisy, its name is trying to improve themselves better.
CONCLUSION
Matchmaking for men is a matter prescribed by Allah. In this case, the best thing to run is to increase faith, confidence and reliance on God as described in the beginning of this article. Then, do not dwell on negative things and weaknesses, but an effort to obtain mate with the methods recommended above.
As slaves, they did have. Let God assess our integrity in these efforts. Until the time, HE will Come to our best men. Provided, we truly believe and are confident that with Allah Ta'ala, and at the same time we really consistent with all the work we do.
For ultimately, renungilah a hadith of the Messenger
Allah does not look to the appearance and your wealth, but He looked at the hearts and deeds.
Whether or not mate for them? That's the question that often haunt their lives. Especially when you see them as old friends, one by one stepped into the realm of the household. How lucky they are, while the day itself felt increasingly lonely. TV, movies and novels could not penetrate the feelings of their hearts. When they cried watching a movie and a love story, they realize that they are only qualified to be a devotee, not the 'owners' love. More great envy pressing their soul and sensitivity.
Finally, it is questionable. How long should you wait? What needs to be done to get the marriage? Because self-owned wanted, loved. Want also called his wife to the husband and mother to the son of a cute daughter. The question is, how?
How do I as a woman want to work for marriage? I do not have the advantage in terms of appearance. I was not pretty.
This is a big or small? For those who looked to be small, but for the bear, that's their biggest problem.
CONFIDENCE AND PERCEPTION
In fact, the basic solution is quite simple. As a Muslim who believes in God, we also believe that with all the conditions and the work of God. Mate, food, and we have long term established by God before we set foot on earth again. I think, all people know about this statement.
However, to convince to believe, was not easy. Weak faith in God leads to weak confidence in the calculated move of God. We can be confident that this night there is provision for us, but it is hard to believe that one day there came to our courtship.
It's a matter of belief.
Loop "NOT ME BEAUTIFUL"
First of all, when there came the whispers of the heart that trigger doubts, you should immediately 'check' the whispers in advance and do not continue to believe.
For example, talks about the possibility there will be no catch for you. Perhaps you will marry the old, the old maid. You are not beautiful. No one wants to be your wife. And many more other whispers.
Analysis of past and do not continue to believe.
Example: I am not beautiful, who are to be my ni.
These doubts and whispers of the most stirring of girls and women out there. If not filtered, all the whispers will affect not good to yourself. So the analysis; whether you are beautiful?
Is it true that you sehodoh and bad? Really you do not conduct and no man who wants to?
The answer: NO.
If you do not believe, look around you. Millions of people are not beautiful being called the wife and mother of their children. If not beautiful the way of the mate, it is impossible that they can feel the blessings home.
Sometimes, you can see with your own eyes, a man who hensem and handsome but married to a woman who is not beautiful, and they are happy. Not pretty does not mean ugly like a ghost. What I mean here is not in the category of pretty good-looking. Not in the category of simple men masher attention.
Proved, there was the sad conjugate, even sometimes their lives much happier than the beautiful.
MONITOR whispers of Satan
So the first step that I suggest above is not easy to believe the whispers and negative spark your own heart. You should be aware, that what is being discussed is very closely related to the question of FAITH in God. Faith means trust with confidence. Mate is also included in this question. Superintendent of trust and confidence to the entire universe, is God.
To be confident like that, we have to clean the liver. Because faith is located in the liver. If our faith weak radiation, the dependence of God less, they are easily the devil into our hearts. Satan will try to rule and control our hearts the hope that we will despair of the Mercy of God. This is the work of Satan until the day of Judgement, as his promise to God.
If you manage to clean out the liver, by increasing the remembrance, prayer and reading the Quran, the whispers will not be able to take place in your heart. Your confidence in God will become stronger. When you expect incidence of a good man for you, hope that you back up to God. Not to the people.
So with that, God willing you will be calm.
BUSINESS
Well, after you perform the step above well and tries hard to please, from the whispers of the negative, there was the question of how you work. True, as humans we can not only trust, but merely need to be accompanied also by the effort. For example, want to eat rice. We will not be satisfied if only sitting cross-legged on the bed without making any. So in addition to our confidence that there is provision for us, the confidence that our actions must be accompanied with working out and looking for food.
Similarly, the mating.
Do not expect future mate will come rolling door, when you shut up alone in the house. For women, there are ways for you to strive for a mate. Moreover, if you do not have the edge on your look and more difficult to attract men.
Beautiful women, may differ from the others. Many are lining up to try his luck.
So in terms of this work, you can actually use whatever methods and strategies that are deemed necessary, on condition that it does not conflict with Islamic law. Among them:
1 - the well bucket SEARCH
Shame on you. This is what is normally accepted as a solution like this try to put forward. Minds of our society can not accept the intelligence of a woman on the men. Men who have gone to women but women just have to wait for the man.
In fact, even the women who came inquire of the boys, this is not an embarrassment in the presence of Islam. It should only be seen against the custom only. But remember, in Islam we are taught to burden themselves with unnecessary red tape. So take the custom only to the degree necessary.
The Prophet saw Permudahkanlah (business) and do not bedevil.
So if the women who started first, it can be calculated are included in the category of work and it enabled the Islamic side.
2 - BUILDING PERSONAL Charisma
I am more inclined to move this effort to any concerns of women think about mating. I once wrote a beautiful article on the value of a man who more or less the same purpose, ie to motivate women out there who feel that they are 'not beautiful'.
Do not get too dejected to think about mating. Do not worry too slow to meet the mate. Do not be too haunted by feelings of inferiority, until you lose yourself! This is what I affirm.
You must believe that the entire body, there are a thousand and one advantages that God has given you. But, you may not know the advantages that you do not know yourself. I repeat, you do not know yourself.
I once wrote that for men, beautiful appearance is not the number one after marriage. This fact in the home environment. Then why, the issue was not beautiful or not you enlarge, so that 'beauty' in your other failed to be polished.
A fact you should know about men, men like women who are charismatic.
Men are attracted to women who are courageous, self-reliant, smart, intelligent, mature, can become good friends to laugh and cry, reason, foresight, caring, good support and many more.
And another fact you should immediately realize is; all the above properties does not exist ONLY on the beautiful women only! Are you aware?
You may not realize that if you are a very very like chestnuts, love to watch Korean and crazy love story to read hundreds of novels of love. Why? Because of the 'world' is, you will see a perfect heroine, but very perfect.
Heroin is a pretty charming. Then he was also a talented, intelligent, smart, mature, charismatic, high-caliber and a myriad of other advantages. Meanwhile, friends of the heroin was mediocre. Not pretty and not much advantage there.
These imaginary characters who are blind you, and also has been successful blind people 'catch' you out there. When want to marry, characteristics sought in a woman must be beautiful and attractive. If not, he would feel 'lost' the character in the drama and film.
You may also be that if too believe in the stories you read or watch.
You should immediately realize that the character in the movie or drama is yourself. You are able to compete as characters. You are eligible for the accompanied good man, like the characters. Although you are not as beautiful as heroine in the film.
Then from there, you will quickly develop charisma in you. If you are a student, you will be a tip top student, not the usual. Academic achievement in a number. Your appearance neat and maintained. Your behavior is very orderly and pleasing anyone. Involvement in associations, outstanding programs and activities. If you are the director of programs, then you will be seen as a very professional director. If you are a coordinator of the program, you are seen as a careful and prudent strategy. If your working environment, you known as a full employee commitment, wise mengutarakn brilliant new ideas, consistency in the performance of work and most importantly, your manners pleasing all my colleagues.
Consciously or not, you're the attention of many men who are seeking their life partner. And these men, it was certainly not a lady-killer type or types of crocodiles, because men of that class is only concerned with aspects of the appearance of beauty in their lives. Good man will approach you, and when you look 'tough' and 'excellent', so the higher your stock in front of them.
3 - BE SELFISH
Did you know that being yourself is a form of business? A lot of people wrong. Restless think matchmaking is not abiding arrived, he turned into someone else. Usually, they will strive to improve aspects of personal beauty, in the hope that men would approach them.
From a virgin who could not bermake-up, he is a virgin her make-up three inches thick. Dinipiskan eyebrows. Increasingly tightened loose shirts. More abbreviated lid loose. Upload pictures in various poses and was aired on blogs and facebook. Everything is made solely to qualify him to be the hottest girl in the market.
This is ridiculous.
Be yourself. You must understand that to yourself that there are things that can be changed and there are things that can not be changed. This must be understood before you put the principles of: Men need to accept me for granted.
Examples that can not be changed are the things that are physical in nature. Height, color, shape of the nose and so on. All this you must not change or improve. Accept it as yourself and good men will accept you as is.
But things can change you need to change. For example, the way you walk, how to laugh, habits, negative attitudes and even the weight (if you have a problem of obesity). All of this is if you refuse to change, then you simply do not expect a man in an engagement and then accept you as is. It was difficult.
You kind of laugh like crazy. This is bad in the eyes of men. You need to change. You are a habit-gedik or melatah tergedik nonsense. This needs to be changed. Weight as well. You do not keep eating and do not like exercise. When you are gaining weight and more rounded, you remember to never try to lose weight on the ground 'is myself and men need to accept me as is'. That's the wrong concept.
So, be yourself in illegal things changed. Instead of mandatory change, you have to change. That is called hypocrisy, its name is trying to improve themselves better.
CONCLUSION
Matchmaking for men is a matter prescribed by Allah. In this case, the best thing to run is to increase faith, confidence and reliance on God as described in the beginning of this article. Then, do not dwell on negative things and weaknesses, but an effort to obtain mate with the methods recommended above.
As slaves, they did have. Let God assess our integrity in these efforts. Until the time, HE will Come to our best men. Provided, we truly believe and are confident that with Allah Ta'ala, and at the same time we really consistent with all the work we do.
For ultimately, renungilah a hadith of the Messenger
Allah does not look to the appearance and your wealth, but He looked at the hearts and deeds.
